I know as a mother the hardest thing you can deal with is having to tell your kids that their dad is in prison especially if they are too young to understand. Sometimes you have to make tough decisions. If you are dealing with a father who goes in and out prison and isn't looking to change then you may have to wait until your child is old enough to deal with the situation to explain it to them but if he was never around then its probably not going to bother them one way or another. If you have a child who has a father who was active in their life then and was caught up in a bad situation then you may need to sit down and have a heart to heart with the child. Don't let your feelings get the best of you and you start yelling "your daddy is so dumb." or "Your daddy is so stupid." That's not how you handle the situation. Try your best to explain it. If your up to it take your child to visit him in jail so that they can still have a relationship. Or just let them write or talk to him on the phone. Don't try to break the bond if it was already there because not only will your child resent you and their father but they will be confused as well. Talk. Listen. Learn. There are a lot of kids dealing with having a father in the prison system and a lot of them repeat that same mistake because the families don't cope too well with it. Please don't let your child become just another statistic because the odds will be against them.
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